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How I Made it Through My Pandemic Divorce And Subsequently Became Friends With My Ex-Wife
The first thing I will admit is that it was an absolute shitshow. Divorce isn’t pretty and there’s no way around that. It was debilitating and consuming and it took years. I spent ridiculous amounts of time being angry and frustrated and depressed, and I came out the other side.
As we all know, the world came to a sudden stop in March 2020. I had purchased a home with my wife a few months prior and was living my life as a Yoga teacher, dog parent, and spouse.
When everything came to a grinding halt, she and I were left to contend with the problems of our relationship that had always been there — and the pandemic put them under a microscope. Nowhere to run away to, not even from ourselves. We had already been in couples counseling for several months and although our relationship seemed to be healing, the tragic truth was that it couldn’t be saved no matter how much therapy we went through together.
Sometimes things don’t work out the way you want them to, and it took me years to learn that it will still be ok.
Our final separation was a devastating break I had never experienced and was definitely not prepared for. How could I be? Especially in the nascent stages of a years-long global pandemic that none of us could…
